I finally spoke to DH about his NOT drinking. I told him how proud I was of him, and that I was impressed that he has not had a drink, even when we had a big argument, when he was stressed out. When we had that argument, I expected to leave for work and come home to empty bottles. I didn’t. I asked him if it was hard.
He said it was very hard, that almost all he thinks about is beer, but that his family is worth it. So we are making progress in leaps and bounds. It’s been nearly a month since he has had a drink. Still early, in terms of recovery, but amazing for him.
I told him that I am much happier now, knowing that I am coming home to him sober, knowing that I don’t have to worry about a forgotten cigarette or him starting food on the stove and forgetting about it. I like knowing that if we fight, it is because of a genuine problem that we need to work out, rather than him just trying to start a fight because he is drinking. I have not been called names in a drunken fit in a month. My life is already much less stressful and much more calm.
In other news, we found a house we are interested in, and I have also noticed that we would no longer live within easy walking distance to a liquor store. Oh, I’m sure you could walk to it if you wanted to, but instead of a 5 minute round trip, it would be a 30 minute round trip, if not more. I notice these things.
I’ve noticed the kids seem happier and more relaxed. They have not commented on him not drinking, but I’m sure they have noticed.
He DOES get grumpy quicker. At this point, I’m not holding it against him. I know that he is on edge because his crutch isn’t around. I believe that it will get better.
Life married to an alcoholic 