Life married to an alcoholic

March 13, 2009

Well he wins…sort of

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , — tiredwife @ 10:05 am

I’m not going back to the Friday night meeting. Why? A large part of it is the reaction when I got home. I’m not up to a drunken bitch fest about how I don’t support him, I’m too good for him, etc etc. It’s just not worth it.

I am, however, looking for a Friday DAY meeting. He will be at work. He won’t know about it. Kids are in school and I can go in peace. More importantly, I can come home and have a quiet day. He won’t be able to go buy beer in retaliation, because he won’t know I’m going. He doesn’t normally drink on Fridays anyway. Last Friday was my “punishment” for going to Al-anon.

So, I will let him think he has won. It’s easier for me that way and he drinks less if he thinks he got his way.


  1. Stumbled on your blog, I have every sympathy. I have just managed to get my drunk wife to bed. She has anxiety/obsessive problems that get worse when she drinks, but drink she does. Tonight she hid it, nipping upstairs to her hidden bottle of wine between a ‘casual’ drink with dinner. I should have spotted her getting more and more intense, as she does when she drinks… but then – BAM – she’s in tears and depressive and suicidal, hitting the prescription benzo-diazapines and hardly able to stand. Managed to get her into bed/asleep, where she now is – unconsious. Guess I’ll have to skip work (again) tomorrow to keep things going with school run, etc. while she has a major depression-session. Probably won’t get out of bed all day. It’s the kids I feel sorry for, they’re only tots so I can’t go, for their sake. What on earth do I do?

    Comment by Nag — March 18, 2009 @ 5:15 pm

  2. I stumbled on this blog as well while doing research for an article. Nag, your comments touched me, too often we hear about men and the effect their alcoholism has on the family and not the women. I pray that your wife gets help soon.

    Comment by shewolf5 — June 24, 2009 @ 10:57 am

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