I’m not going back to the Friday night meeting. Why? A large part of it is the reaction when I got home. I’m not up to a drunken bitch fest about how I don’t support him, I’m too good for him, etc etc. It’s just not worth it.
I am, however, looking for a Friday DAY meeting. He will be at work. He won’t know about it. Kids are in school and I can go in peace. More importantly, I can come home and have a quiet day. He won’t be able to go buy beer in retaliation, because he won’t know I’m going. He doesn’t normally drink on Fridays anyway. Last Friday was my “punishment” for going to Al-anon.
So, I will let him think he has won. It’s easier for me that way and he drinks less if he thinks he got his way.